The following article Joozone gives to you has something to do with the “issue topic”: “The best way to teach － whether as an educator, employer, or parent－ is to praise positive actions and ignore negative ones.”
WE ALL NEED PRAISE(我们都需要得到肯定/表扬)
Most of us need praise －need it badly. Probably if parents administered it oftener, if bosses were more lavish with encouragement, the psychoanalysts would get a rest from the overwhelming rush of patients suffering from inferiority complexes (自卑情结).
Fame and wealth may outrun (=run faster than, overtake) us from start to finish (=from beginning to end, whole life), yet we cannot help expecting just a little human recognition for our efforts. We must bask in the warmth of approval now and then; otherwise the health of our self-respect becomes seriously endangered.
It is perhaps in the home that the value of praise is less appreciated than elsewhere. Not everyone realizes that praise is the handiest fire extinguisher to have around, and that no household can be safe without it. From Joozone.com.
Not a little jealousy has its foundation in hearing another praised for something we do equally well. Take (=take for instance) the point of personal appearance. It is a curious thing how many men, who never fail to observe the looks of other women, let their own wives go year after year without a word of attention. Thereby is sown the seed for much suspicion.
But on the other hand, praise should not be given too lavishly. A young bride of my acquaintance determined to enroll herself in the list of (=count herself as one of ) those who help their husbands to success by faith and encouragement. Mrs. Wife proceeded to “yes” (=obey) him so diligently that she soon had him thinking of himself as a regular little Napoleon. He was all for instructing the boss. But the boss saw otherwise (=had different opinion), and finally had to fire (=dismiss) him.
Years ago, before children were allowed to have personalities, a mother would say to the nursemaid, “Go see what Tommy is doing and tell him he mustn’t.” A fundamental part of the curriculum of “Don’t” lay in the idea that children never should be praised, never encouraged, only goaded (=urged) to achievement by ridicule and fear. That idea has vanished (=disappeared) almost completely today.
On this subject I was privileged to talk recently with Dr. Ira S. Wile of New York, whose wide experience, both as education commissioner for that city and as an expert dealing with hundreds of difficult children, has brought him to realize the need of praise as a practical doctor’s prescription. Dr. Wile mentioned one particularly interesting illustration.
“It was a case of twins,” he said; “two boys. One seemed particularly bright; the other was considered mentally interior. The father asked me to find the reason.